Suro-sus and Me ( No, she don't want to give me trips for my 40!!)

                                           Having breakfast

... and then the BIG 40 hit me !! and I am only recovering now.

                                Kids love the outing!

                 

This past weekend we went to my parents farm where I meet up with friends from different stages of my life ( childhood( my brother and sister) school, swotting, just married and later in my life.( I suppose the only people not invited was my infertility-team)

 

We stay on the farm and some did camping we where 15 adults +kids.  It was such a nice chill time. These people know me probably the longest and the best and they all have been there for us all the way. I love them all.

 

The Saturday morning  we went for breakfast and the afternoon we swim and chat and some sleep and others picnic in front of their tents.

                                  

The evening we did stir-fry outside( what a disaster!!) the wind was bad( it kills the flames and it start drizzling) whwhhwhwwaaaaaa and that’s how most of my life turn out...... NOT LIKE I HAVE PLANED! Luckily I am used to that and my friends know that too. They did told me they did not think all will go smoothly. Sies you all!!

 One of my friends arrived early on my Bday with freshly baked banana-muffins ( I am not even fully wake and we are having champagne)

We ended up finishing the food on the stove. But the party was so nice and we have had so many laughs!! The whole weekend was so special!!

 

And then Monday on my Birthday I had a “girls night” in my garden...... why I always want to do effort and  so many  all on my own ( I still don’t know?) but I wanted it to be special and chill and after all you only turn 40 once. It was difficult with two kids just turning everything  up side down . At the end I phone Luv and told him, now I wait till you got home and then I will neat to finish quickly, because at the moment I  am doing things twice.

  Do you see the un-dress guest on the left??( party animal)

The night was wonderful with stunning weather!! Good friends, stunning food and wine!!

 

 

My  40 ties was a great party which I will treasure for long!

THANK YOU TO ALL MY FRIENDS WHO HAVE MADE THIS SPECIAL AND TO ALL THE CALLS AND TEXTS I HAVE RECEIVED!!

 

 

LOVE YOU ALL XXXX

 

Every parent brings up their kids in the best way they think. ( or so I hope)

But more and more I see sitting-on-their-ass-parents. Kids bulling others ( and make no mistake mine did that too) but if with other kids I as the parent need to look out for that and learn my kids it’s a No No!!!.   But some parents just say..... The kids need to sort themselves out!! Have you ever!! Are they just stupid??? How the hell do a one year old stand up against a 4 year old?

And how do kids learn if the parents are too lazy getting up and helping their kids. And always funny how the bully of two who’s idiotic parents say sort it out is still the bully at 18!!

And then if you kids cannot swim and you just leave them to look after them self( the sitting on the ass parents know there is always “ the Other Parents” who will look after their kids two!!  And if “ the other parents” look after their own kids, and not yours and something happen , who is crying the hardest them??????? Sitting-mommy???

And sometimes I wonder how must a kid feel if mommy is never  looking out for them? Because this is going to be their life for ever. Will mommy came and watch their school games( or do “the others Parnts”need to cheer your kids on) will mommy ever have time for them, or do they need to sort their own life out ???? Just wondering??

Years ago a girl of 19 told me how her parents are irritating her because they want her to come and visit all the time, but her whole life her parents was always busy with their own stuff, entertaining and parties. The kids need to sort them self out and keep busy by themselves all time. She are so use to that so why now when she have  her own life her parents want to have attention?? They were never there for her??

 Is this how this kids going to feel one day?

May my kids never feel left out !!!

I think you always think of your kids like baby-size and you don’t keep track of time, age and size. You think they too small to do a thing and the next moment you surprised by what they have just done. I was scrolling through my phone this weekend and came upon a video clip of the exact day a year ago. It was a clip of the two of them on the squash courts I was shock at how small and unbalanced they were. If I see how they operate now on that courts it amazing!!

 

Daily they are doing more and more dangerous stuff. Funny how you don’t want them to get hurt but you also know you have to let go otherwise they will never learn, life!

To see the difference between boys and girls are so fascinating.

I am much geared for accidents but please hope I will never need to use it! I don’t freak easily but when things happen to my kids I freeze!! Thank you so much for angles protecting them daily!

My last few days of the 30”s is slowly but defiantly passing by now.

Most women don’t want to get older, but I am seeing so forward to it. Just for the simple reason, I want normal 40ties! It’s like a new era that have arrives.

My whole fucking 30’s was jam-pack-full of hormones, fertility treatments, doctors, sitting in receptions, hospitals, pregnancies, miscarriage, tears. The only highlight  of the 30ties was the suro-journey and the twins!!

But now the 40ties wait and that means a normal life! A life full of what a family do. A life which we can plan as we go, not a life that circle around cycles and money for treatments and what ever shit.

If I look at myself I can see the scars the 30ties have left on my body...hormone  treatment where not helping my waistline. Laparoscopies have let my tummy look like a carving scene. Stress and horror have left me with daily more grey hair. The effect of pregnancies on my body have left me with paining joints.

And the last two years I was just playing the best job in the world, FULL TIME MOMMY! That means now more me-time which left me  looking-like a wreck!

The end of last year I discover I’ve got an ‘EAR-WRINKLE’ whoooooo I was nearly dying when I saw that!! An ear wrinkle! I always thought just old people have them!! But the worse on that was I’ve got an ‘BOOB-WRINKLE’ too!!!! Then you ancient!!!!

      Mine are not this bad yet! bad I seen them

Suro-sus had just a laugh because she has never heard of an ear or boob wrinkle! Till I show then. The boob wrinkle are this wrinkles between your boobs!! ( more cleavage wrinkles but I call them boob’one)

So the 30’s have also age-me physical !

That’s why I am seeing so forward to the 40’s they defiantly can’t be that heavy on me. The 40’s will be the best ever!! That’s why I am planning a celebration party! To welcome the 40’s

our camp site

We went camping this past weekend ....and whooo its was great!! Kids think is was best ever. The whole tent and”braai” and play were wonderful.

There were 3 swimming pools with different  temperatures and that was a bonus! Because we could not take the kids for swimming lessons since they babies( due to at the town we live... nobody do baby classes)

We took them, ourselves and did allot of effort and its pay off now. They love being in the water. Love jumping from the side with the heads under the water. And they will swim alone with their water rings.

Nika are like me, we don’t mind cold water and Wium and his father is the sissies, only warm water, please!!! Wium refuse to even put his toe in cold water. And when his cold he wants to hibernate!! He wants to sleep.

The place we camp at, have allot of animals!! A real kids dream.

We are wonder why we did not do this for a long time.... and realize, its because our kids only start sleeping through the past month and only now we’ve got our energy back!!  More and more of our “old life” are coming back.

Look at all the rabbits!

 

We love swimming

The was the "practise Camp" the weekend before, in our garden

The barbeque-king with his helper.

 

  The beginning of the year is always such a mad rush, so many thing to get organized and I have my party too, I am best at last minute-organizing but things don’t always work out like that!!

I have been to my parents for a few days while Luv was on work-stuff. I always miss his extra pair of hands! Kids just love it on the farm. They  have loads of space and all they want to do is play. They have start riding balance bikes and my brother lend his kids bikes for the twins.... they were like glue on the bikes. If   I have give them permission they would take the bikes to bed.

Nika are your more care full-driver , you can just laugh while watching he, she got her own way and  think its dam fast!!! Wium is the hell driver!!! And what he has learn... to show off can be cruel!!! He had a hell of a fall!

                                                                            

He love riding with his” oupa” on the farm on all that have an machine.

I did swim allot in this heat and it’s amazing to see how great they are doing in the water. They are not arrived, which is good and bad. Nika love her little swim ring and NOBODY must touch her she want to swim on her own. Wium don’t want a swim ring he wants to jump and swim like his nephew!!( who are 5!) but i’ts nice to see how they manage the little things we learn them in the water.

 

.... and the best AT LAST!!!!!!!!!!!!!! They are sleeping through, BOTH!!!!! Every night..... did not think this will ever happen!! Jippeeee

The past weekend we did camping in our garden to test-drive-our-rotten-old-camp skills! Kids have had a bliss! So from now on we will do some camping again!.

 

 

And Monday it was 6 years ago when I lost my two little boys!! I always hate the day and with Luv not being with me .... I felt very edgy the whole day!!!

 

HI Everyone!!! Welcome back !! and as you can see I am back again after a wonderful break. Always sorry if the nice ended and it’s back to normal again.

May you all have  wonderful 2014 with lots a amazing moments and loads of happiness. May all your dreams come true and may you all be bless xxxxx

I am always seeing forward to the beginning of a new year its like starting  a blank new page.

This year I am stepping into the 40’s ( still can not believe I am that old now, but after infertility have stole my whole 30’up, this is realitly) and I do have big dreams for this year !!!!

 

This past few weeks we as  a family have had the most wonderful time . swimming , beaching, walking, sleeping and just have fun times with our wonderful kids and fam and friends.

                           VIP Twins in their private Jacuzzi with a view

                                    Just loving their private sand-pit

                                     Late afternoon beach-visits

                                       Suro-sus visit us-coffee time

                                Dad show them an octopus on the rocks

                         You can not catch me!!! I am safe in dad's arms...

Happy Times