Saving +/- R 20 000

My sister surro for us in March, it was negative.  Then in May she wanted to try again. No matter if she did it before, the law changed ( 1st April ) and we needed to do an application at High Court. I was so down then, because an IVF is costing such a lot of money and now this application would also cost a LOT of money.

I got names and contacts of “specialized people” who work with this (how can anybody be a specialist if the law just been changed??????)

I was doing my own research on the law reading through everything, asking lots of people quotes (what it was for, why we need it for the application, etc etc). I came to the conclusion that  IT’S A PLAIN STRAIGHT FORWARD APPLICATION. The law is straight forward on all the do’s and don t’s. To  myself it felt like there was a lot of people just want to make money and not caring a damn about us, the INFERTILES.

One of the first things that caught my eye was the Social workers reports. They Quotes R 5 000 and it’s the same stuff that the Psychologist have to write. The law changed so you don’t need to adopt anymore, so why this report??? I was told that I will have to have this report for the court application. I thought Bull-shit!!! At the end it turned out exactly that – You don’t need a Social workers report anymore!!!!

I was intimidated a lot and that make me even more furious, and more determined to find someone that will help me. Lots of people trying to help me and at the end I met Jaenre Botha, an attorney!! I was explaining everything to her, and she liked this challenge. She is such a sweet, nice lady. Knowing nothing about Infertility, but wanted to found out everything. She wanted to help me because for the 1^st time she realized how hard INFERTILITY  can be on people.

Because it’s a High Court case you need an Advocate as well. Luckily her husband, Hermie Wentzel, is an advocate and he helped us. It is so nice working with them.

When everything was in place the High Court was closed for 2 months (because of world cup soccer!!??) and we needed to wait.

Friday we went to court and get the okay to proceed!!!! Jippeeeee, I am so happy!!!!

….And the best of all, we saved plus/minus R 20 000!!!!! Yes it’s true!!!

What I have learned is, GET QUOTES!!!!!! It’s your right!!! If you have a good lawyer team they will save you money! Ask the lawyer what you need and what it will cost. You DON’T need the social workers report (saving R 5 000 quickly!). For the Psychologist – shop, shop, shop!! Nobody is a specialist, doctors is! And some specialized people’s quotes were more than the doctors who is doing the jobs at the end. The law states exactly what you need. You need a lawyer, a doctor’s report and a report from a Psychologist. And any Psychologist can do the job because the law prescribes what is needed.

Suro-sus have already had her day 1, now we need to be synchronized and will start more or less at the end of October.

…hoping this will be the end of my road!